Big Brother Naija star Tochi has said that lower levels of patience, tolerance and endurance among today’s couples are a major reason many modern marriages are under intense strain. Sharing his views on Instagram, he argued that people of this generation “don’t have the same level of tolerance, patience and endurance our mothers and fathers had.”
According to him, many young spouses are now “too woke”, quick to walk away from relationships rather than work through challenges and sacrifices that previous generations accepted as part of marriage. He noted that this mindset, combined with social media pressure and changing values, has made it harder for couples to stay committed when problems arise.
Tochi suggested that modern marriages should even operate more like formal contracts, where partners understand clearly the weight of the vows they are taking. In his view, if one person breaks those vows, there should be some form of “penalty”, to remind people that marriage is not something to be entered into or exited casually.
He also implied that many adults today are increasingly comfortable with being alone and independent, which means they are less willing to endure discomfort or compromise for the sake of keeping a union intact. While some fans agreed with his concerns, others argued that what older generations called patience sometimes meant enduring abuse or deep unhappiness.
Tochi’s comments have sparked fresh conversation online about where to draw the line between healthy endurance and staying in clearly harmful marriages, and how couples can balance self-respect with commitment in this new era.
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